Sexploitation: Helping Kids Develop Healthy Sexuality in a Porn-Driven World
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As surprising as it may be to parents, young people today are immersed in porn culture everywhere they look. Through Internet porn, gaming, social media, and advertising, kids today have a much broader view of social and sexual possibilities, which makes it difficult for them to establish appropriate expectations or to feel adequate in their own sexuality.
Even more important, no one is talking to kids directly about the problem. Parents tend to convince themselves that their children are immune to cultural influences, wait until it comes up, or hope schools and pediatricians will address the issues. Educators and doctors may be able to start the conversation but it is fundamentally a parent’s job to provide information about sex and relationships early and often to help young people find their way through their social and sexual lives. Delaying the necessary but awkward conversations with their kids leaves them vulnerable. The media, marketers, and porn and gaming industries are eager to step in anywhere parents choose to hold back.
Sexploitation exposes the truth to parents, kids, educators, and the medical profession about the seen and unseen influences affecting children, inspiring parents to take the role as the primary sexuality educator. With more information, parents will gain conviction to discuss and develop values, expectations, boundaries, and rules with their kids. Kids who enter their teens with accurate information and truths stand a better chance of developing an “inner compass” when it comes to sex and relationships, which sets them up for a healthy adulthood.
In her comic and straightforward style, Pierce brings together the latest research with anecdotal stories shared with her by high school and college students in the thick of it. Above all else, her goal is to get people to develop more comfort around those difficult conversations so that kids gain more confidence and courage about drawing boundaries based on their own values not those put upon them.
Advance praise for Sexploitation:
“Cindy Pierce’s new book, Sexploitation, is a comprehensive, wise and sometimes alarming look at the culture of porn that surrounds our kids. Pierce is a straight talker on the subject of sex; she is also a compelling writer and she makes a strong case that parents have to be brave and talk to their kids before the Internet introduces them to sexuality. Her book will help parents to find that courage.”
– Michael Thompson, coauthor of the NYT best-seller Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys
“For every parent who’s ever panicked about having ‘the talk’ with their child, Cindy Pierce has created a frank, honest resource to help – and more importantly, a reminder that this isn’t a ‘talk’ at all but rather a conversation that evolves as our boys and girls become responsible, sexually active young men and women.”
– Jodi Picoult, NYT bestselling author of Nineteen Minutes and My Sister’s Keeper
“As parents, we wish our kids will grow up to have happy, healthy sex lives. Just ‘wishing’ won’t help. We need to talk with them, otherwise their sex education will come from popular culture and the internet. Whether we like it or not, all teens, even preteens have to confront pornography. Cindy’s book will help parents find our voices to discuss challenging topics that weren’t part of our own growing up.”
– Dr. Michael L. Lyons MD, Assistant Clinical Professor of Community and Family Medicine at Geisel School of Medicine at Dartmouth College