“In Sex, College, & Social Media, Cindy Pierce provides the essential facts high school and college-age kids need in order to have happier, healthier sexual lives. Her approach is exactly right: educating kids about what they’re really seeing in the media so they can be more discerning in their consumption, while encouraging involvement in healthy social relationships that are not technology-dependent.” — Peggy Orenstein, author of Girls and Sex: Navigating the New Landscape
Sex, College and Social Media: A Commonsense Guide to Navigating the Hookup Culture
Sex in college has never been simple. And with modern technology, rising rates of sexual assault and STIs, and an ambiguous hookup culture, it is now ever more complex. Sex, College and Social Media: A Commonsense Guide to Navigating the Hookup Culture is a compassionate, funny, and well-researched primer for the modern college student. You’ll find information about: how communication makes sex better; ways that porn and the media warp sexual expectations; healthy relationships; STIs and contraception; alcohol and drugs; respectful terminology for all things LGBTQ; expectations for consent; and sexual assault on campus. Sex, College and Social Media provides trustworthy answers for pressing questions about the college social scene, preparing entering freshmen for their new environment and offering supportive guidance through senior year and beyond.
“Like an anthropologist, Cindy Pierce is studying a culture that is forming where social media and adolescence collide.Today’s teens are at the center of a perfect storm of coincidence: hormones raging, insecurity and social unease rampant, and no fully developed sense of self or confidence yet in sight. The Internet and social media magnify these struggles, blaring them like a megaphone into the public space. Right in front of us and yet out of sight, where no one can really grasp their magnitude, these changes are affecting the younger generation, many of whom are powerless to resist its clarion call because they lack the tools, insight and confidence to do so. Pierce’s insights are substantiated, spot-on and invaluable to any parent, teacher or coach trying to navigate this new terrain.” — Parent of three teenagers
Sexploitation: Helping Kids Develop Healthy Sexuality in a Porn-Driven World
Download a free excerpt of Sexploitation: Helping Kids Develop Healthy Sexuality in a Porn-Driven World.
As surprising as it may be to parents, young people today are immersed in porn culture everywhere they look. Through Internet porn, gaming, social media, and advertising, kids today have a much broader view of social and sexual possibilities, which makes it difficult for them to establish appropriate expectations or to feel adequate in their own sexuality.
Even more important, no one is talking to kids directly about the problem. Parents tend to convince themselves that their children are immune to cultural influences, wait until it comes up, or hope schools and pediatricians will address the issues. Educators and doctors may be able to start the conversation but it is fundamentally a parent’s job to provide information about sex and relationships early and often to help young people find their way through their social and sexual lives. Delaying the necessary but awkward conversations with their kids leaves them vulnerable. The media, marketers, and porn and gaming industries are eager to step in anywhere parents choose to hold back.
Sexploitation exposes the truth to parents, kids, educators, and the medical profession about the seen and unseen influences affecting children, inspiring parents to take the role as the primary sexuality educator. With more information, parents will gain conviction to discuss and develop values, expectations, boundaries, and rules with their kids. Kids who enter their teens with accurate information and truths stand a better chance of developing an “inner compass” when it comes to sex and relationships, which sets them up for a healthy adulthood.
In her comic and straightforward style, Pierce brings together the latest research with anecdotal stories shared with her by high school and college students in the thick of it. Above all else, her goal is to get people to develop more comfort around those difficult conversations so that kids gain more confidence and courage about drawing boundaries based on their own values not those put upon them.
Advance praise for Sexploitation:
“Cindy Pierce’s new book, Sexploitation, is a comprehensive, wise and sometimes alarming look at the culture of porn that surrounds our kids. Pierce is a straight talker on the subject of sex; she is also a compelling writer and she makes a strong case that parents have to be brave and talk to their kids before the Internet introduces them to sexuality. Her book will help parents to find that courage.”
– Michael Thompson, coauthor of the NYT best-seller Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys
“For every parent who’s ever panicked about having ‘the talk’ with their child, Cindy Pierce has created a frank, honest resource to help – and more importantly, a reminder that this isn’t a ‘talk’ at all but rather a conversation that evolves as our boys and girls become responsible, sexually active young men and women.”
– Jodi Picoult, NYT bestselling author of Nineteen Minutes and My Sister’s Keeper
“As parents, we wish our kids will grow up to have happy, healthy sex lives. Just ‘wishing’ won’t help. We need to talk with them, otherwise their sex education will come from popular culture and the internet. Whether we like it or not, all teens, even preteens have to confront pornography. Cindy’s book will help parents find our voices to discuss challenging topics that weren’t part of our own growing up.”
– Dr. Michael L. Lyons MD, Assistant Clinical Professor of Community and Family Medicine at Geisel School of Medicine at Dartmouth College
FINDING THE DOORBELL: Sexual Satisfaction for the Long Haul
by Cindy Pierce and Edie Thys Morgan
Sex can feel passionate, tender or transporting. Sex can also feel stressful, divisive or even obligatory. Fortunately sex also has an accessible lighter side. Finding the Doorbell combines expert advice with an unvarnished, under-the-covers look at other people’s intimate experiences. These stories and insights will resonate with anyone who wants to make sex a priority without letting it dominate his or her identity, time or brain space. This book delivers the peeled baby carrots version of how to have sustainable sex in a long-term relationship. It’s easy to grasp, easy to enjoy, and offers healthy benefits.
Whether your sex life is “just fine,” needs some freshening up or is in a drought phase, Finding the Doorbell welcomes you to good company with an enlightening range of perspectives. False assumptions that skew our expectations are revealed such as: great sex has to be outrageous; and everyone else is having more sex than you. Scientific evidence and anecdotes from the trenches demystify things like the much-lamented imbalance of sex drive between men and women, and the truly elusive nature of the clitoris. Finding the Doorbell uses honesty and humor to defuse a loaded topic while inspiring couples to make sex a vital and enjoyable part of their lives together.
Praise for Finding the Doorbell:
“Finding the Doorbell… is an understated, funny bright spot in what appears to be an ongoing tsunami of self-help books on sex and sexual satisfaction.”
– Susan Salter Reynolds, Los Angeles Times, February 2008
“Finding the Doorbell is an honest and straightforward guide that is both easy and delightful to read.”
– Chris F. Fariello, Director, Institute for Sex Therapy